Jewish dating is usually clearly purposeful. Jewish singles are not encouraged to date for the sake of dating or just to have some fun. Most often Jewish dating has a clear objective of finding the right marriage partner. As everything in life you can approach Jewish dating in either the right or the wrong way. Consequences of the wrong approach may be significant. Take a look at the Jewish dating tips. Follow them and you will be able to avoid the most commonly made mistakes:
- Do your homework. It is important that you find out as much as possible about the person you decide to meet before the first date. This way you will make sure that your relationship has a real potential.
- Give your date a chance. Unless there is something you strongly dislike about the other person’s behaviour, appearance or values, go ahead and meet the person again. Sometimes stress of a first date causes people to “not be themselves”. They may say or do something they normally wouldn’t. This is why you should always give it another chance. Believe me, many people who quite disliked each other on the first date now enjoy shalom bayit.
- Before you arrive at your first date - decide that you are going to have a great time. Also, make sure your date feels welcome and comfortable, whether you are interested in them or not. This positive attitude will make you feel good about yourself afterwards. And trust me, this positive feeling is the best comforter for the obvious disappointment of not having met your beshert…
- Make sure you ask a lot of relevant questions. As we said already, Jewish dating should serve its purpose. Do what you can to find out if the other person’s lifestyle, values and vision of your potential relationship match your expectations.
- Make sure that you get a good night sleep the night before the first meeting. Jewish dating often involves travelling – when you plan for the trip, make sure you schedule in some time for rest. This way, when it comes to the big hour, you will be more relaxed and able to show enthusiasm, sense of humor, creativity and curiosity – these are the key aspects of effective dating.
- Be patient. Don’t expect to be swamped off your feet on the first date; it’s very unlikely that anyone will experience such passion on the first date. Again – it usually takes time to recognize the real deal.
- Try to look your best. We all know how important the first impression is. Remember - you will never get the second chance to make the first impression.
- They say: When you know, you know. But what if you just don’t know? Give yourself time to get to know the other person better. And when your heart tells you that this is not your beshert, it is very important that you let them know how you feel. Leaving the other person hoping and wondering about your future together could indeed be very hurtful.
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